How to deal with anxiety

In the last article, I talked about depression. At about halfway, I talked about another problem that I have been dealing with as a result of not having all aspects of my life in order. That problem that I mentioned is anxiety.

Over the past few months, I have been dealing with anxiety because some of my projects are not where I expected them to be. I expected to be earning a certain amount after a certain number of weeks, but have not met my goals yet. This is making me anxious because I’m getting worried and stressing out that I won’t be able to get what I want from this project. But my anxiety is caused by nothing other than my impatience.

Patience has never been my strong suit. Ever since I was little, I have never had patience. When I saw a toy that I liked, I wanted it right away. When I learned a new skill in basketball, I wanted to perfect it away. When I learned something new, I wanted to understand it and be able to do it right away. Patience has never been something that I was good at.

And this mindset is truly detrimental.

Why? Because great things always take time. As everyone says, Rome was not built in a day. Everything takes time. If I want to be great at something, it will take time. Reaching my goals will take time. I’m not going to wake up the next day and be successful. I won’t even be semi-successful. I just have to learn to wait and not be anxious while waiting. I have to be patient.

But being patient is not always easy, especially for a person like me who always overthinks things. So if you are like me, here are some things that I do to escape the negative thoughts and worry less:

1) Focus on breathing

When I am feeling anxious and I catch it, what I do to calm down is just lean back, close my eyes, take a deep breath, and just focus on my breathing. For me, I usually do about ten to twenty deep breathes and I’m good. You may need more (or less).

2) Focus on the good things in your life
Another thing I do is just to be grateful for all that I have. No matter how bad my situation may seem to me, there is always someone who has it much worse than me. So just think of the good and happy things in your life. Be grateful.

3) Remind yourself to be patient

After I’m finished my breathing and being thankful exercises, I remind myself over and over again, like a chant, that everything takes time and I need to be patient. I just need to continue to put in work and wait.

And kazaam! I calm down and my anxiety is pretty much gone. That’s all I do.

However, I still get anxious and I’m still working on being more patient, so I’m far from conquering this demon. But at least now I know what to do when anxiety hits and know what my flaw is.

Have you or do you deal with anxiety? If so, what are some tactics you use to slay the demon? Share it below in the comments.

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